Archive for the ‘Aging’ category

Knee Update

July 9, 2019

Tomorrow will be the 5 week anniversary of my knee surgery. Everything seems to be going well. I saw my surgeon today and got an excellent review. Pain is beginning to wane. I am still having some trouble getting comfortable while sleeping.

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Starting next week, I do PT once per week for three more weeks, then done.

May Fifth

May 6, 2019

Well yesterday was May 5th. We went to church and then to Pacific Diner for brunch. After we finished brunch we headed over to Regency Palms to visit Mary and drop off clean laundry and pick up dirty laundry.

We also got to meet Mary’s room-mate Sally. (Very nice lady). Of course, Mary was in bed. The care-givers (ladies in green shirts) dropped by to tell us that there was a party up on the roof. So, we all proceeded down to the elevators and went top-side.

So we bundled Mary up in her winter coat. (It’s windy and chilly up there). They have wind shields that help block the wind a but not enough.

They had a seven piece mariachi band playing. There was a buffet of light snacks (Salsa, guac, etc.)

Here are a couple of pictures:

Next Sunday, we will be picking her up to go to Mothers’ Day service at Ocean View. Then lunch at Pacific Diner.

After the Move…

May 4, 2019

Well, Mary has been moved into her new home at Regency Palms on Tuesday. Now, it’s time to talk about what’s next.

Mary seems to be settling in okay. She has a roommate named Sally. Paula met her a couple of days ago. Paula said that she seemed nice.

We are starting to adjust to life without Mary. First change is adjusting out food purchases. Now we are buying for two instead of three. Last night we had a shrimp dish that was very tasty. Mary doesn’t like Shrimp, so we never bought any.

Mary had trouble chewing steaks and chops, so we didn’t get any for her. We would usually cook a burger for her. It’s always been a struggle to figure out what she liked or disliked. We would ask her “What do you want us to get you to eat?”. Never got an answer. So we would just shop and try to keep track of what she would eat or not eat.

We also have a spot in the refrigerator door where we kept the jug of white zinfandel. Not sure what we’re going to put there, but something will find the spot. We would give her 1/2 a glass. Sometimes, she would ask for more, but we would generally refuse. She gets dizzy enough without help from alcohol.

Mary loved watermelon, though she wasn’t eating it so much for the last week or so. Luckily for us, one can buy watermelon already cut up and in a plastic bowl ready to eat. No seeds, no rind, etc.

Going forward, we will begin cleaning out her bedroom. She has some clothes that she hasn’t worn for years. There’s some stuff that is way too big for her. The job probably won’t start until after my knee surgery in June.

Paula will be trying to get over to visit every other day. Pick up dirty laundry. Talk to the staff to find out what she needs.

Sometimes, the condo feels a bit spooky. I keep expecting to see Mary toddling out of her room to sit at the dining room table. Nobody there.

TTFN,

Joe

A Place for Mary

April 7, 2019

Well the deal is done. We told Mary about our plans for her. We made an appointment to meet with the folks at Regency Palms in Long Beach. We met with one of the administrators for lunch. Here’s a picture of one of the administrators with Mary.

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Jonathan and Mary

We had meat loaf with mashed potatoes and carrots. Mary cleaned her plate and ate dessert too. As usual, she was real slow in eating, but we weren’t in a rush.

After lunch, we took her to her room and gave her a tour. Once that was done we headed down to the office to work on next steps. I gave them copies of her power of atty documents.

Next we got a document to take to her doctor to fill out. Once we get the medical clearance we can do the contract and schedule a nurse home visit.

Once we were sitting in the office conference room, I think Mary finally figured out what we were talking about. The first time that we brought up the subject on Thursday evening, I don’t think she understood what we were talking about.

We had told her that we wouldn’t be able to care for anymore and that we were physically and emotionally shot. Perhaps, she thought that we would be moving out. Who knows? At any rate, it seems that she finally understood it today. But she doesn’t remember any of it today.

Now we get to work signing forms.

Board & Care #3

April 6, 2019

This is the 3rd (and hopefully final) Board & Care that we have visited. It is up in the NE corner of Torrance. It is a solid 30 minute drive either on the freeway or on surface streets. As in most B&C’s, this is in a single family dwelling.

Here is an outside view of the home:

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This B&C is licensed for five residents. Currently there are only two residents living there. So there are three open rooms. All of the rooms are private bed rooms. Residents do share bathrooms.

Seeing as there are only two residents, it was pretty quiet. There was a large main room for dining and couches for watching TV.

Price is $3800, but might jump up in $500 increments if additional services required. I don’t have a good feel what they might be.

It seemed to be clean but the ramps could use a coat of paint. There was some patio furniture that looked pretty worn.

This one seem a bit better than the first two, but that maybe because there are only two people living there.

We are planning on discussing the topic with Mary this evening. We will probably take  Mary for a visit on Saturday to the Torrance B&C and the Long Beach Memory Care unit.

More later…

Board & Care #2

April 3, 2019

We visited another Board & Care today. Our goal is to make a decision by Saturday. This B&C is in San Pedro on 1st Street. It is only 5 minutes from our house. Once again this facility is in a private residence (as are most B&C’s) Here is an exterior picture:

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So this home seemed a bit bigger than the B&C we visited yesterday. It didn’t seem quite as cramped. There are three bathrooms. Each bedroom is equipped with two hospital style beds. So here are my pluses and minuses:

  • Price is $3800 flat rate per month. All inclusive.
  • Shaded patio outside.
  • 5 minute drive to get there. This means we can keep doing Mary’s usual routines like her hair appt. on Friday.
  • Newer TV. Not that it matters, Mary doesn’t watch any TV.
  • Ramps out back.

Here are some more pictures:

Bottom line is we don’t really know how Mary would take to doing the move. We will probably break the news to her in the next day or so. Then take her for a tour.

The proximity to our place issue is huge. Price is also a big plus. We can pay for it quite easily. We won’t go broke moving her. Cheaper and nicer. That’s a good combination.

Stay tuned.

Joe

Bored & Care

April 2, 2019

Today, Paula and I visited a “Board and Care” facility in Torrance. Board and Care is the name given to non-medical care facility typically provided for  up to six or so seniors typically in a residential setting.

The facility that we visited is in a single family residence in Torrance. This particular B&C is licensed for up to 6 residents. Here’s an outside picture.

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As you can see from the picture, a ramp has been provide for handicap access. Though I wouldn’t want to have to do an emergency evacuation in case of fire.

Pluses

  • Only about 10-12 minutes from our home.
  • Price is $4000 for a bed in a semi-private room. That’s a lot less than some of the other elder care facilities. Price is all inclusive including all meals but not medicine.
  • Nurse Practitioner visits once a week.
  • Facility was clean. No rugs (trip hazard)

Minuses

  • It felt crowded. All of the residents (all five of them) were sitting in worn recliner chairs watching TV (Set was tuned to a “Bonanza” episode on TV-land. I figure that was the total extent of their mental stimulus. It wasn’t even a particularly good TV.
  • Lunch was served while we were there. We were not asked to join them. Menu was sloppy joes and a cup of jello or pudding. It didn’t look particularly appetizing.
  • Not sure how many bathrooms there are. We only saw one. I would assume there would be more, but we just didn’t see them. The bathroom that Mary would use is outside the room and a few feet down the hall. It has handicap access shower and toilet.

Here are a few more pictures. I didn’t want to take any pictures of the living room because there were residents sitting in the chairs.

Bottom Line

This ain’t it. We can afford better.  A lot better. I would be embarrassed to think we put Mary here.

We probably will try to see another couple of board & care’s by Thurday. Make decision by Thursday.

TTFN

Joe