Archive for May 2014

2 Year Anniversary

May 31, 2014

This is my 200th blog post on calherewecome and the 2 year anniversary. Actually, I’m a little bit late on the date. I actually created the blog on May 15, 2012. But who’s counting.

One of my goals for doing the blogs was to create a place that I could use to share my life after retirement. It was (and still is) my goal to be able to reach people who don’t do Facebook. Don’t get me wrong, I like Facebook, but it tends to be a black hole were your memories go to die. Try and find something you did or said from 2-3 years ago.

Facebook posts tend to be short. I was looking for something longer like 1 or 2 pages in length.

At first I thought it would be for many of my friends and acquaintances from around the country. But I found that there were people that I didn’t know were reading my blog. Wow.

So take a minute and go back and read some of the posts.


May 31, 2014

Yesterday, we were watching our grandson Jonathan all day while Mike and Theresa went to a conference on home-schooling. So Jonathan arrived early and left late. He has become quite used to our place and our presence. He fussed just for a few seconds when they left. But that ended quite promptly after they left. Jonathan has a generous set of toys at our place. He knows where they are and that they are his toys.

In previous posts, I have talked about our journey to Los Angeles. If Mike, Theresa and their family were living in the Boston area, we probably wouldn’t have made the decision to pull up stakes and move across the country. We would probably have moved Mary either to assisted living or a nursing home or moved her back east. Mary was one of the reasons we moved here, Jonathan is the reason that we are staying here and enjoying life here out west.

So yesterday morning we decided to go for a walk around our condo walkway. Jonathan is still learning to speak, but he clearly understands us. When we said “Let’s go for a walk”, he went to our front door and got his shoes. (We have adopted a Chinese custom of removing one’s shoes inside.) So off we go,the three adults walking and Jonathan running as fast as his little feet can carry him. He stops to look at the shadows cast from the trees and railings. He looks at the flowers. This is a nice place to walk. It is flat and protected. No danger of running out into traffic. We can let him run to his heart’s content. Here are a couple of pictures:

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Jonathan is clearly picking up language. Sometimes we can’t tell whether the word is childish gibberish or Chinese. His word for a dog is “gogu”. Many times Jonathan will point to something that he wants (usually to eat). So now we tell him , “Use the word”. We usually know what he wants but we are encouraging him to use words for whatever he wants. Usually pretzel goldfish, potato chips, crackers, etc. All of the things that he knows that grandparents will have on hand for him.

Yesterday we were fixing lunch and he comes in to help speed things up. He has discovered the ice dispenser and water dispenser on our refrigerator. So he pushes the lever and out comes half a dozen ice cubes. So Jonathan says in the cutest possible way, “OH-OH”. So Paula tells him to pick up the ice and put it into the sink, which he does. So today’s word is “Oh-Oh”. Precious.

By 2PM, everyone is ready for a nap. Jonathan is no exception. He lays down on our bed and sleeps for 1.5 hours. Sometime a little longer.

After nap, we decide we can do a little TV. We bring up our Netflix account and start “Curious George”. There is lots of kids programming on Netflix. Sometimes we watch on the TV, sometimes on the iPad. After Curious George, it’s time for Red Sox Baseball on MLB.TV. You can’t start a child too early on watching Red Sox Baseball. By the time he is five, I expect him to know who “Big Papi” is and how to read a baseball score sheet.

So today is Saturday and much quieter around her.


Update on Mary

May 29, 2014

Okay, it’s been a while since I last gave an update. As many of you know, Paula and I are living with her mother here in Sunny California. It will be two years in August since we arrived here from Massachusetts.
 Mary is recovering nicely from here shoulder surgery in January. She just this week did her last physical therapy session. She could probably do more of the exercises that have been given her to do at home. She hasn’t had any falls since last December and that is a good thing. We have to be ever vigilant especially on steps and rough surfaces. She still is driving. Every once in a while she brings up the subject and we try to put off the subject. Eventually she forgets about it.
 Her short term memory is getting much worse. She has trouble remembering what day of the week it is. We have a calendar on the kitchen table that she can use to help track what she is doing (or supposed to be doing). We are continuing to try to keep our home safe from trip hazards. We are constantly reminding her to use her cane. We have warned her that the next fall might kill her.
 Mary and Paula just returned from a trip to Kansas for Mary’s high school reunion. Unfortunately her brother, sister-in-law and sister were unable to make the trip due to health reasons. But nevertheless she met with many of her cousins that she would not have otherwise seen. She doesn’t communicate well with her family. No writing, no phone calls, no email. If sometimes we make the call she will talk. So Paula and I have become the conduit for communication with her siblings.
 When our grandson Jonathan comes to visit her eyes just light up. Jonathan is 2 1/2 years old and is extremely cute. Those visits just make her day.
 Over the past couple of years we have managed to improve her diet. Before we arrived, her meals were few and far between. She said that she just wasn’t hungry. So we now have regular meals and get her to sit at the table and eat with us. Figuring out what she likes to eat though is a challenge. Managing the left overs in the refrigerator is also a problem. We usually go out to lunch after church. Mary usually eats about half of her meal and takes the rest home. Then we try to get her to eat the stuff that she brought home as well as other stuff before it spoils and needed to be thrown out.
 So next week we are driving to Salt Lake City to visit with our son Neil and attend his step-son’s graduation. So on the one hand Mary will be riding with us. So that means we don’t have to worry about her well being while we are gone, but she is a lousy traveller. I will need to manage two sets of room reservations and try to get her to help pay for some of the meals and other travel expenses. Actually, that’s a lot easier now, I just charge it on her credit card.
 That’s all for now. I hope to do a post while we are up in SLC.
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It’s a girl!

May 5, 2014

Just got the news. It’s a girl.

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